What do you want your baby to learn? Arguing and fighting?
Babies may not understand why you are yelling and fighting, but they do know something isn’t right. Its not good for their health and development. Plus, babies learn from what they see and hear, is arguing, fighting and yelling really what you want them to learn? They will learn that yelling is an appropriate way of communicating and soon he or she will be crying to compete for the attention over the noise.
It also creates a sense of uneasiness about strength of her parents relationship. The baby is watching you, learning from you. He or she is learning that this is a ‘normal’ way to be, to feel uneasy, stressed, yell, and fight. It is how we pass our dysfunction to our children, and do not ever think they are too young to understand. Kids understand long before they can verbalize it. Remember, you are teaching them that this is how to solve problems with another person, and you are teaching he or her this is how to have a relationship with other people.
Babies are very sensitive to emotions around them. They need to feel that you and your partner love each other and love her so that he or she will feel secure.
One of the worst side effects of living in a hostile environment is stress. Stress really shouldn’t be a part of a child’s life. The negative stress brought on by living in an unhappy household full of conflict, is detrimental to a baby’s physical and mental health.
Arguing in front of babies makes them frightened of their own parents, and very insecure. The very people who should make them feel secure and happy, are doing the opposite. Babies can become anxious, and this affects their physical and mental health.
Think about what you are doing to your child when you argue. You make them fearful, insecure, cry, unhappy, ill, mentally unstable, sad, depressed anxious, irritable, violent, angry, unstable, aggressive, and insecure with you.
Most people do not look at the reality of this. They get so caught up in themselves and their problems, that they just think the baby or child is along for the ride and will get over it. They will not! You will give them a lifetime of problems that they do not deserve! Every baby deserves a happy, secure parent and home!
If the baby gets sick, you would take him to the doctor or hospital and take care of he or her until they were well. If they had an accident, you would take care of them and worry about them. If a baby has a diaper rash or could get into something that would harm them, you would be right on top of that. You would not neglect to feed your baby or change it’s diaper, or give it a bath. You rock your baby and play with them, make sure they are physically taken care of.
Why don’t you look at arguing in front of them as abuse? What if you were that baby and your parents were behaving the way you and your partner are? Hmmmm, it’s a different picture now!
A baby is a baby, and a child is a child just once. Make their life pleasant and happy, they will face enough issues when they grow up.
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